{"quotes":[{"text":"Victimnoun \\ˈvik-təm\\ 1. The moment you tell everyone you have a mental disorder, in order to excuse your behavior.","author":"Shannon L. Alder","tags":["be-real","dignity","emotional-responses","emotions","excuses","games","games-people-pleay","hidden-agendas","honesty","illness","live-truthfully","live-with-dignity","mental-disorders","mental-illness","truth","victom"],"id":62533,"author_id":"Shannon+L.+Alder"},{"text":"God doesn’t give us pain to make us strong. He gives us strength to look inside ourselves and realize we are not innocent victims. When you learn humility, you are no longer a victim because a humble man is not self-absorbed. He seeks to understand why people are hurting him and takes responsibility for his part in their grief. Humility doesn’t dwell with anger or pride, and neither does God.","author":"Shannon L. Alder","tags":["anger","bishops","compassion","ego","guardian-angel","humble","humble-men","humility","listen","men","pastor","pride","religion","scriptures","see","sermons","understand","victom","victomization","wisdom","wives"],"id":189881,"author_id":"Shannon+L.+Alder"},{"text":"Don’t ever let your spouse or partner blame an outside person or persons for the ruin of your relationship or their past relationships. If two people are committed to one another then no one can change that.","author":"Shannon L. Alder","tags":["blaming","coming-clean","conflict","honesty","issues","lack-of-accountability","lack-of-integrity","lies","marriage","ownership","reality","relationships","responsibility","smoke-screens","taking-ownership","the-past","truth","victom"],"id":406334,"author_id":"Shannon+L.+Alder"},{"text":"No boundary or barrier surrounds the heart of a person that loves their self and others.","author":"Shannon L. Alder","tags":["barriers","boundaries","change","denial","dignity","forgiving","freedom","healthy-people","insecurity","letting-go","limits","loving-one-another","low-self-esteem","passive-agressive-behavior","protection","reaching-out","respecting-others","rules","self-love","self-protection","self-respect","self-worth","spiritual-growth-self-denial","stunted","tolerance","trust","truth","victom","victomization","walls","worthyness"],"id":451365,"author_id":"Shannon+L.+Alder"}],"pagination":{"page":1,"page_size":10,"total":4,"pages":1}}