{"quotes":[{"text":"In fact, the teenager's concept of 'square' (f the term is still in use), when they talk about their parents, is almost identical to the concept of 'cultural deprivation' as it is used by educational bureaucrats. In both cases it reflects an extremely self-centered and rigid way of looking at the world. Fortunately, with teenagers, it's a phase they grow out of.","author":"William Ryan","tags":["cultural-deprivation","educational-bureaucrats","society","squares","victim-blaming"],"id":1973,"author_id":"William+Ryan"},{"text":"Feminism...Is not 'women as victims' but women refusing to be victims.","author":"Gloria Steinem","tags":["feminism","feminist","gloria-steinem","radical-feminism","victim-blaming","victim-mentality","victimhood"],"id":25387,"author_id":"Gloria+Steinem"},{"text":"The main difference is that the enlightened believe that the poor criminal should be rehabilitated while the righteous believe that the immoral criminal should be locked up in jail. Since almost the only available system of rehabilitation in America is to be locked up in jail, the difference remains highly abstract.","author":"William Ryan","tags":["criminal-justice","criminal-justice-policy","enlightened","prison","self-righteousness","society","victim-blaming"],"id":38194,"author_id":"William+Ryan"},{"text":"Viciousness is part of the world we live in, some of us choose to ignore it with the rationalisation of wanting only positivity to flow our way. How selfish we have become! That the pain of others has become a hindrance to the fulfilment of our positive selves.","author":"Aysha Taryam","tags":["culture","judgment","justice","positive","positive-thinking","rape","rape-culture","viciousness","victim","victim-blaming"],"id":42407,"author_id":"Aysha+Taryam"},{"text":"They were so thrilled when I said I’m a virgin,” I blurt out. “I’m so fucking stupid.”I start crying again, and Alex hands me a napkin. “You’re not stupid,” she says. “You simply don’t assume people mean you harm.”“Yeah, well.” I blow my nose loudly. “Last night that equaled being stupid.”“No, it means you’re normal,” Alex says.","author":"Mindy McGinnis","tags":["rape","victim-blaming"],"id":45052,"author_id":"Mindy+McGinnis"},{"text":"You can always evaluate a man's character by the way he speaks about his ex girlfriends and other women. When entering a new relationship or getting close with a new guy, make sure you take notice of the language he uses when referring to other girls.","author":"Miya Yamanouchi","tags":["awareness","boyfriend","character","communication","dating","ex-girlfriend","ex-girlfriends","ex-wife","girls","guys","insight","language","men","new-man","personality","relationships","respect","slut-shaming","victim-blaming","women"],"id":75141,"author_id":"Miya+Yamanouchi"},{"text":"Young women are not putting themselves in danger. The people around them are doing the real damage. Who? You might wonder. The abstinence teacher who tells her students that they'll go to jail if they have premarital sex. The well-founded organizarion that tells girls on college campuses that they should be looking for a husband, not taking women's studies classes. The judge who rules against a rape survivor because she didn't meet whatevel standard for a victim he had in mind. The legislator who pushes a bill to limit young women's access to abortion because he doesn't think they're smart enough to make their own decisions. These are the people who are making the world a worse place, and a more dangerous one, at that, for girls and young women. We're just doing our best to live in it.","author":"Jessica Valenti","tags":["college","feminism","law","rape","victim-blaming","virginity","women"],"id":93316,"author_id":"Jessica+Valenti"},{"text":"The most judgmental people are often those who complain most about being judged. The ones not complaining will look as though they're the ones doing the judging.","author":"Criss Jami","tags":["blame","complain","discern","discernment","fear","fret","guilt","hypocrisy","insecurity","judge","judgment","judgmental","life","playing-the-victim","playing-the-victim-in-life","victim","victim-blaming","whine"],"id":101359,"author_id":"Criss+Jami"},{"text":"Blame is a Defense Against PowerlessnessBetrayal trauma changes you. You have endured a life-altering shock, and are likely living with PTSD symptoms— hypervigilance, flashbacks and bewilderment—with broken trust, with the inability to cope with many situations, and with the complete shut down of parts of your mind, including your ability to focus and regulate your emotions.Nevertheless, if you are unable to recognize the higher purpose in your pain, to forgive and forget and move on, you clearly have chosen to be addicted to your pain and must enjoy playing the victim.And the worst is, we are only too ready to agree with this assessment! Trauma victims commonly blame themselves. Blaming oneself for the shame of being a victim is recognized by trauma specialists as a defense against the extreme powerlessness we feel in the wake of a traumatic event. Self-blame continues the illusion of control shock destroys, but prevents us from the necessary working through of the traumatic feelings and memories to heal and recover.","author":"Sandra Lee Dennis","tags":["affect","affect-regulation","betrayal","betrayal-bond","betrayal-trauma","betrayal-trauma-theory","blame","control","emotional-health","emotions","higher-purpose","hypervigilance","illusion","memories","mental-health","mental-illness","out-of-control","posttraumatic-stress","posttraumatic-stress-disorder","powerlessness","ptsd","regulate-emotions","self-blame","shock","trauma","trauma-victims","traumatic","traumatic-experiences","traumatic-memories","traumatized","victim-blaming","victimhood","victimization","victims"],"id":105905,"author_id":"Sandra+Lee+Dennis"},{"text":"I've always resented the smug statements of politicians, media commentators, corporate executives who talked of how, in America, if you worked hard you would become rich. The meaning of that was if you were poor it was because you hadn't worked hard enough. I knew this was a lie, about my father and millions of others, men and women who worked harder than anyone, harder than financiers and politicians, harder than anybody if you accept that when you work at an unpleasant job that makes it very hard work indeed.","author":"Howard Zinn","tags":["american-dream","falsity-of-the-american-dream","hard-work","indignation-of-the-poor","lies","victim-blaming"],"id":158792,"author_id":"Howard+Zinn"}],"pagination":{"page":1,"page_size":10,"total":21,"pages":3,"next":"?page=2\u0026page_size=10"}}