{"quotes":[{"text":"The Shulamite lives by a different set of values. One of the most horrible frauds perpetrated on western couples is 'trust your feelings' or 'follow your heart.' Solomon's family must never be left to whims. A wise Shulamite does not make life decisions based on feelings, alone. She takes God's point-of-view: 'He that trusteth in his own heart is a fool; But whoso walketh wisely, he shall be delivered.' --Pr 28:26For young couples, a hard lesson to learn is: Their hearts will lie to them.Pg 3.","author":"Michael Ben Zehabe","tags":["feelings","follow-your-heart","fraud","god-s-point-of-view","hearts-lie","shulamite","shunemite","song-of-solomon","song-of-songs","trust-your-feelings","values","whims","young-couples"],"id":4326,"author_id":"Michael+Ben+Zehabe"},{"text":"Abraham had eight sons--not one. All eight sons bring something to the table. Abraham loved all of his sons. He was a good father who made sure all his sons were literate, of good character and shared a common ideology with their father, Abraham. Abraham did good. Where did we go wrong?Pg 54.","author":"Michael Ben Zehabe","tags":["abraham","forgiveness","interfaith","isaac","muslims","peace","prejudice","religious-intolerance","shulamite","song-of-solomon","song-of-songs","sons-of-abraham"],"id":77652,"author_id":"Michael+Ben+Zehabe"},{"text":"This is going to hurt, but you will have to watch other couples be happier, richer and louder than you. Wait. No obstacle can withstand patience. Wait. You may not think so now, but there will come a time when you will be tempted to run away. Would that be right? Would that be fair? As every matriarch discovers, entire seasons will pass without reward. As your mate's peculiarities add up, what do you do? Wait!Pg 45.","author":"Michael Ben Zehabe","tags":["alienation","couples","divorce","fair","hurt","marriage","newlywed","obstacles","patience","reward","separation","song-of-solomon","song-of-songs","tempted","wait"],"id":133614,"author_id":"Michael+Ben+Zehabe"},{"text":"Every friend, every neighbor, and every family member wishes that you retain your golden heart. No one wants to see your love sullied. Yet, they all know a dark circumstance will find you eventually. Know this: You are being hunted--like game. Life will knock you down with some unexpected misfortune. Resolve now, to help your partner get back up. Only a determined family kills its wounded. When everyone else abandons him, come back for your husband.Pg 55.","author":"Michael Ben Zehabe","tags":["forgiveness","husband","marital-wisdom","marriage","marriage-counseling","shulamite","song-of-solomon","wife"],"id":146974,"author_id":"Michael+Ben+Zehabe"},{"text":"All Abraham's sons were taught that God would progressively reveal Himself. God's wholeness has yet to be realized. There will always be gaps in our understanding. Why should we fill those gaps with suspicion, bigotry and accusations? Men do it to women; Jews do it to Christians; Christians do it to Muslims. Yet, all these have an implied duty to Abraham.Pg 54.","author":"Michael Ben Zehabe","tags":["abraham","bigotry","christian","hate","intolerance","israel","jew","love","muslim","peace","religion","song-of-solomon","tolerance"],"id":203254,"author_id":"Michael+Ben+Zehabe"},{"text":"Your partner may have injuries that you can't repair. Your partner may be trapped in a dark room without windows. Your life narrative might bring him more relief than an opiate. Some people make better windows than windows. Your kind words and enlightened perspective is a window of wonders to someone living in pain.Pg 43.","author":"Michael Ben Zehabe","tags":["darkness","divorce","injuries","marital-problems","marriage","newlywed","pain","relief","separation","song-of-solomon","song-of-songs","suicide","trapped","window","wonders"],"id":231615,"author_id":"Michael+Ben+Zehabe"},{"text":"Like your marriage, everything in the universe is trying to find its orbit. In the midst of this constant readjustment, both partners should be able to go to bed knowing that neither one is going to abandon a wounded, or struggling marriage. There is a comforting reassurance being with someone who keeps their promise.Pg iv.","author":"Michael Ben Zehabe","tags":["advice-to-daughter","character","christian-hypocrisy","covenant-keeper","faithful-wife","keeping-a-promise","loyal-husband","marital-advice","oath","promise-keeper","song-of-solomon","unfaithfulness"],"id":234707,"author_id":"Michael+Ben+Zehabe"},{"text":"Marriage is nothing to underestimate. Success in marriage is about getting back up, again and again. Ultimately, the Shulamite had to write her own role in Solomon's drama. She made Solomon's problems her problems. For her, that was worth every bruise.Pg ii.","author":"Michael Ben Zehabe","tags":["advice-to-daughter","oath-keeper","obstacles","pitching-in","promise-keeper","resurrecting-marriage","shulamite","shunemite","solomon","solomon-s-wedding-advice","song-of-solomon","song-of-songs","unfailing-marriage","waiting","wedding-toast"],"id":247238,"author_id":"Michael+Ben+Zehabe"},{"text":"Would you marry you? Be the right person before seeking the right person. Solomon's bride is carefully chosen for the good of his family, for the good of his kingdom.Pg 9.","author":"Michael Ben Zehabe","tags":["anointed","bride-class","choosing","choosing-wisely","family","kingdom","kingdom-first","kingdom-interests","marriage","shulamite","shunemite","solomon","solomon-s-bride","song-of-solomon","song-of-songs"],"id":268408,"author_id":"Michael+Ben+Zehabe"},{"text":"When we justify a flaw we are actually inventing a new one. When a woman neglects developing her own character, she not only chisels away her own reputation, but the reputation of everyone in her household.Pg 48.","author":"Michael Ben Zehabe","tags":["character","good-wife","growth","household","reputation","shulamite","song-of-solomon","song-of-songs"],"id":276568,"author_id":"Michael+Ben+Zehabe"}],"pagination":{"page":1,"page_size":10,"total":12,"pages":2,"next":"?page=2\u0026page_size=10"}}