{"quotes":[{"text":"When psychotherapy began, it was about the practitioner listening to a patient and interpreting what the patient said, in order to afford the patient insights about his or her psyche. But now we understand that the main curative part of psychotherapy is the relationship itself. It appears not to be relevant which psychology school the practitioner belongs to. What matters is the quality of the relationship and the practitioner's belief in what he or she is offering.","author":"Philippa Perry","tags":["mentorship","psychotherapy","relationship","sanity"],"id":8190,"author_id":"Philippa+Perry"},{"text":"In simple, the past is a time gone by and no longer exists in the present moment, but we choose to allow this past to occupy our minds, our bodies and our very existence.","author":"Asa Don Brown","tags":["acceptance","counseling","forgiveness","healing","psychology","psychotherapy"],"id":10588,"author_id":"Asa+Don+Brown"},{"text":"The freedom of an unscheduled afternoon brought confusion rather than joy. Julius had always been focused. When he was not seeing patients, other important projects and activities-writing, teaching, tennis, research-clamored for his attention. But today nothing seemed important. He suspected that nothing had ever been important, that his mind had arbitrarily imbued projects with importance and then cunningly covered its traces. Today he saw through the ruse of a lifetime. Today there was nothing important to do, and he ambled aimlessly down Union Street.","author":"Irvin D. Yalom","tags":["philosophy","psychology","psychotherapy","schopenhauer"],"id":21897,"author_id":"Irvin+D.+Yalom"},{"text":"I am willing for the participant to commit or not commit himself to the group. If a person wishes to remain psychologically on the sidelines, he has my implicit permission to do so. The group itself may or may not be willing for him to remain in this stance but personally I am willing. One skeptical college administrator said that the main things he had learned was that he could withdraw from personal participation, be comfortable about it, and realize that he would not be coerced. To me, this seemed a valuable learning and one that would make it much more possible for him actually to participate at the next opportunity. Recent reports on his behavior, a full year later, suggest that he gained and changed from his seeming nonparticipation.","author":"Carl R. Rogers","tags":["change","group","group-work","participation","psychotherapy","therapy"],"id":28416,"author_id":"Carl+R.+Rogers"},{"text":"Secondary structural dissociation involves one ANP and more than one EP. Examples of secondary structural dissociation are complex PTSD, complex forms of acute stress disorder, complex dissociative amnesia, complex somatoform disorders, some forms of trauma-relayed personality disorders, such as borderline personality disorder, and dissociative disorder not otherwise specified (DDNOS).. Secondary structural dissociation is characterized by divideness of two or more defensive subsystems. For example, there may be different EPs that are devoted to flight, fight or freeze, total submission, and so on. (Van der Hart et al., 2004). Gail, a patient of mine, does not have a personality disorder, but describes herself as a 'changed person.' She survived a horrific car accident that killed several others, and in which she was the driver. Someone not knowing her history might see her as a relatively normal, somewhat anxious and stiff person (ANP). It would not occur to this observer that only a year before, Gail had been a different person: fun-loving, spontaneous, flexible, and untroubled by frightening nightmares and constant anxiety. Fortunately, Gail has been willing to pay attention to her EPs; she has been able to put the process of integration in motion; and she has been able to heal. P134.","author":"Elizabeth F. Howell","tags":["apparently-normal-part","dissociation","emotional-part","personality","psychology","psychotherapy","ptsd","structural-dissociation","therapy","trauma"],"id":31029,"author_id":"Elizabeth+F.+Howell"},{"text":"Perfectionism is adaptive if you are mindful of your humanhood.","author":"Asa Don Brown","tags":["ccpa","counseling","love","perfect","perfectionism","psychology","psychotherapy","unconditional"],"id":33099,"author_id":"Asa+Don+Brown"},{"text":"There are essentially three types of people: those who love life more than they fear it, those who fear life more than they love it, and those who have no clue what I'm talking about.","author":"Neel Burton","tags":["humor","philosophy","psychology","psychotherapy","wit"],"id":45212,"author_id":"Neel+Burton"},{"text":"Good therapy, gently but firmly, moves people out of denial and compartmentalization. It helps clients to develop richer inner lives and greater self-knowledge. It teaches clients to live harmoniously with others and it enhances Existential consciousness, and allows people to take responsibility for their effects on the world at large. For me , happiness is about appreciating what one has. Practically speaking,this means lowering expectations about what is fair, possible and likely. It means,finding pleasure in the ordinary.","author":"Mary Pipher","tags":["psychology","psychotherapy"],"id":52380,"author_id":"Mary+Pipher"},{"text":"I say, thirteen is too many dogs for good mental health. Five is pretty much the limit. More than five dogs and you forfeit your right to call yourself entirely sane.Even if the dogs are small.","author":"E. Lockhart","tags":["dogs","humor","psychotherapy","sanity"],"id":82757,"author_id":"E.+Lockhart"},{"text":"Bowlby's conviction that attachment needs continue throughout life and are not outgrown has important implications for psychotherapy. It means that the therapist inevitably becomes an important attachment figure for the patient, and that this is not necessarily best seen as a 'regression' to infantile dependence (the developmental 'train' going into reverse), but rather the activation of attachment needs that have been previously suppressed. Heinz Kohut (1977) has based his 'self psychology' on a similar perspective. He describes 'selfobject needs' that continue from infancy throughout life and comprise an individual's need for empathic responsiveness from parents, friends, lovers, spouses (and therapists). This responsiveness brings a sense of aliveness and meaning, security and self-esteem to a person's existence. Its lack leads to narcissistic disturbances of personality characterised by the desperate search for selfobjects - for example, idealisation of the therapist or the development of an erotic transference. When, as they inevitably will, these prove inadequate (as did the original environment), the person responds with 'narcissistic rage' and disappointment, which, in the absence of an adequate 'selfobject' cannot be dealt with in a productive way.","author":"Jeremy Holmes","tags":["attachment-theory","psychology","psychotherapy","therapists"],"id":98917,"author_id":"Jeremy+Holmes"}],"pagination":{"page":1,"page_size":10,"total":62,"pages":7,"next":"?page=2\u0026page_size=10"}}