{"quotes":[{"text":"So, a little advice. Relax. You're not filling a job position. You're looking for a pleasant acquaintance.. Who might become a good friend... Who turns out to be attractive to your senses... And a rewarding lover... Then a committed partner whose heart will not stray. If you don't see those signposts and in that order, then you're probably on the wrong road and getting more lost with every step.","author":"Anthony D. Ravenscroft","tags":["love","polyamory","relationships"],"id":11895,"author_id":"Anthony+D.+Ravenscroft"},{"text":"A real relationship doesn't properly begin until the NRE burns away. That's when you have to start dealing with this person as an all-around human being, replete with irritating little habits. When disillusion sets in, love can begin.","author":"Anthony D. Ravenscroft","tags":["love","polyamory","relationships"],"id":72850,"author_id":"Anthony+D.+Ravenscroft"},{"text":"They'll say you are bador perhaps you are mador at least you should stay undercover.Your mind must be bareif you would dareto think you can love more than one lover.","author":"David Rovics","tags":["agape","believe","betrayal","break-up","broken","cheat","cheater","cheating","closet","commitment","communication","consent","control","cry","depressed","desire","dirty","divorce","divorced","dream","empowering","end","ended","eros","family","fear","feelings","feminism","forever","freedom","friends","friendship","gone","happiness","heartbreak","heartbroken","hearts","honesty","horny","human","humanity","hurt","infidelity","jealousy","jerk","keep","keeper","keepers","live","lost","lovers","monogamy","nasty","need","nonmonogamy","pain","partners","peace","plural","polyamory","polyandry","polycule","polygamy","polygyny","possessive","quad","queer","real","relationship","respect","romantic","sad","share","sharing","slut","sluts","sorrow","spice","spouse","stay","suffering","sweet","sweethearts","swinging","team","threesome","time","triad","trouble","truth","undercover","unfaithful","unicorn","unity","valentine","valentines","value","wisdom","wishes","yolo"],"id":89986,"author_id":"David+Rovics"},{"text":"Polyamorous people are wary of having others' values inflicted upon themselves, and so tend to stay very far away from making such pronouncements, to the point that they will actively ignore predatory behavior that is affecting their own 'community.","author":"Anthony D. Ravenscroft","tags":["community","love","polyamory","relationships"],"id":109504,"author_id":"Anthony+D.+Ravenscroft"},{"text":"The three of you were pretty cute last night, with all that touchy-feely crap.'Yeah, that lasted for about two minutes before you dragged Evan back over to the bar.'Dude, we were hunting Turkey. [drinking bourbon] it was important.' Chris grins. 'That boy can drink, I'll give him that.' 'That's big of you. From the way you were hanging off each other by the end of the night, I was thinking I might get Jeff all to myself.' Chris shoots him a look. 'Is that what you want? If you had your way? Just Jeff?' Dan Isn't really ready to answer that question, not even from Chris. 'Wow, you'd switch teams just for me? You'd steal Evan away just so I could take his boyfriend? That's sweet man, really.'Dan knows that Chris recognizes the deflection, but he lets Dan get away with it. 'That's the kind if friend I am, Dan. Maybe you should take a lesson - the next time I need a wingman in a straight bar, it wouldn't kill you to step up.' 'Yeah, okay, I'll keep that on mind.","author":"Kate Sherwood","tags":["dating","friends","funny","gay","m-m-m","polyamory","romance","straight","wingman"],"id":112784,"author_id":"Kate+Sherwood"},{"text":"When you begin with the premise 'I treat everyone equally,' you have already blinkered yourself from seeing where you don't, or can't, or shouldn't. There is no way to treat two people equally, because they are each unique, with respective strengths and weaknesses.","author":"Anthony D. Ravenscroft","tags":["equality","polyamory","relationships"],"id":119233,"author_id":"Anthony+D.+Ravenscroft"},{"text":"So he slips his head off of Jeff's shoulder and slides out from under Evan's Armand shuffles down to the bottom of the bed. It doesn't have a lot of dignity this part of their sleeping arrangement. He's complained about this before but Jeff just nodded, and Evan had kissed the back of his neck, and they'd both snuggled in a little tighter, pinning him in the middle even more effectively than before.","author":"Kate Sherwood","tags":["cuddle","funny","gay","m-m","m-m-m","polyamory","romance","sleep","sweet"],"id":123095,"author_id":"Kate+Sherwood"},{"text":"If there’s anything I’ve learned from polyamory, it’s that the quickest way to destroy a relationship is to try to make it into something it’s not, to force it into a box that it doesn’t really fit in, and to slap labels on something and assume that those labels give the relationship value. No, no, and no. What you end up with is damaged goods in a mislabeled package that end up absolutely where you didn’t want to send the damn thing in the first place.","author":"Page Turner","tags":["labels","polyamory","relationships"],"id":131567,"author_id":"Page+Turner"},{"text":"Polyamory is differentiable from some other forms of nonmonogamy (including adultery) in that it is future-oriented. Poly relationships are not located solely in the moment, but have intentions (though perhaps tacit and vaguely defined) of at least adding to a base of experience possibly so far as signifying a life-long and emotionally attached commitment.","author":"Anthony D. Ravenscroft","tags":["adultery","polyamory","relationships"],"id":138469,"author_id":"Anthony+D.+Ravenscroft"},{"text":"I reserve the right to love many different people at once, and to change my prince often.","author":"Anaïs Nin","tags":["anaïs-nin","love","polyamory"],"id":172136,"author_id":"Ana%C3%AFs+Nin"}],"pagination":{"page":1,"page_size":10,"total":23,"pages":3,"next":"?page=2\u0026page_size=10"}}