{"quotes":[{"text":"Most people are about as happy as their self confidence will allow them to be.","author":"Shannon L. Alder","tags":["anxiety","balance","bickering","change-perspective","competition","decreased-dopamine","fear","fights","finding-joy","finding-peace","freedom","happiness","inner-peace","jealousy","joy","lack-of-confidence","lack-of-contentment","low-self-esteem","need-to-be-right","self-defeating-attitude","serotonin","stimulus-seeking"],"id":3116,"author_id":"Shannon+L.+Alder"},{"text":"The source to low self-esteem is the lack of control you feel you have in your life. If you spend your life competing with others, trying to make right the wrongs done to you, or waste your time trying to look right, you will never achieve contentment and emotional balance. People you encounter in life can’t be controlled by you. You only have control of yourself. Build your life around a relationship with a higher power and achieving what you’re passionate about. When you let go of what you can’t control, true peace can then enter your life. This is the path to achieving emotional balance.","author":"Shannon L. Alder","tags":["adversity","anxiety","authentic-self","balance","buddhism","careers","christianity","competition","confidence","dignity","emotional-balance","emotional-pain","false-confidence","false-righteousness","freedom","hidden-agendas","insecurities","letting-go","life-lessons","men","moving-on","need-for-control","need-to-be-right","need-to-compete","perspective","piety","relationships","role-model-for-kids","role-model-for-teenagers","satan-s-trick","seeing-others","seeing-yourself","self-esteem","self-love","self-respect","self-worth","spiritual-awakening","true-peace","women","worldliness","worry","wrong-reasons"],"id":189352,"author_id":"Shannon+L.+Alder"},{"text":"God told us to love everyone. However, when you don’t like someone then you need to walk away and focus not on him or her, but the hatred you’re harboring. Otherwise, you will allow your piety to take over. Before you know it, you’re using the gospel as a sword to slice other religious people apart, which have offended you. From your point of helplessness, it will be is easy to recruit people that will mistake your kindness as righteousness, when in reality it is a hidden agenda to humiliate through the words of Christ. This game is so often used by women in the Christian faith, that it is the number one reason why many people become inactive. It is a silent, unspoken hypocrisy that is inconsistent with the teachings of the gospel. If you choose not to like someone, then avoid them. If you wish to love them, the only way to overcome your frustrations is through empathy, prayer, forgiveness and allowing yourself time to heal through distance. Try focusing on what you share as sisters in the gospel, rather than the negative aspects you dislike about that person.","author":"Shannon L. Alder","tags":["anger","authentic-self","being-real","being-right","bittnerness","blame-shifters","blamers","blaming","christian-women","christianity-crisis","delusions","distance","fake-kindness","fake-love","false-christianity","false-love-of-christ","games","hatred","hazing","healing-others","hypocrisy","inactive-members","lack-of-communication","lessons-i-learned","listen","manipulation","need-to-be-right","no-grace","observations","pastoral-partners","pastors","pharisees","polite-hypocrisy","problems-with-religion","religions","ruining-testimonies","see-yourself","self-righteousness","sensitivity","sinning","sisterhood","unspoken-hypocrisy","walk-away","way-off-track","wisdom","words-of-wisdom"],"id":260834,"author_id":"Shannon+L.+Alder"},{"text":"Piety /pi•e•ty/ (modern definition)1. When you use Christ’s teachings to put someone in their place out of anger and self-righteousness. It is the number two reason people leave the faith. The first is pride.","author":"Shannon L. Alder","tags":["anger","arrows","blindsighted","clever","cunning","evil-doing","evilness","fake-kindness","false-righteousness","inactive-members","losing-faith","loss-of-holy-ghost","lost","lost-members","lost-testimony","need-to-be-right","obvious","piety","pious","possessed-by-satan","pride","relgion","rightness","sacralige","satan-s-tools","silver-tounged","twisted-scriptures","vengeful","very-lost","winning","wisdom","worst-thing-you-can-do"],"id":264243,"author_id":"Shannon+L.+Alder"},{"text":"How careless of me!' By which she meant that she had deduced that he had found [them] in his pocket and pitied him for needing to be forever in the right.","author":"Tom Holt","tags":["coded-speech","deduction","need-to-be-right","pitychological-problem","sarcasm"],"id":459383,"author_id":"Tom+Holt"}],"pagination":{"page":1,"page_size":10,"total":5,"pages":1}}