{"quotes":[{"text":"Great men have great discipline.","author":"Habeeb Akande","tags":["discipline","great","greatness","hero","leaders","leadership","mabhood","masculinity","men","restraint","role-model","self-control","strength"],"id":3957,"author_id":"Habeeb+Akande"},{"text":"Is there a support group for people who didn’t like ‘Brokeback Mountain’? We must, if the rave reviews and the newspaper reports are to be believed, be a very tiny — not to mention vulnerable — minority. Am I dead inside because I didn’t experience the torrent of emotions I’ve been reading about? Am I as emotionally crippled as Ennis because I didn’t blub and hug after sitting through this ‘visceral’ movie, but instead wanted to go and ‘help with the roundup’?","author":"Mark Simpson","tags":["brokeback-mountain","film","masculinity","men"],"id":12510,"author_id":"Mark+Simpson"},{"text":"The knight is a man of blood and iron, a man familiar with the sight of smashed faces and the ragged stumps of lopped-off limbs; he is also a demure, almost maidenlike, guest in a hall, a gentle, modest, unobtrusive man. He is not compromise or happy mean between ferocity and meekness; he is fierce to the nth and meek to the nth. The man who combines both characters – the knight – is not a work of nature but of art; of that art which has human beings, instead of canvas or marble, for its medium.","author":"C.S. Lewis","tags":["art","chivalry","knight","man","masculinity","nature"],"id":15969,"author_id":"C.S.+Lewis"},{"text":"Certainly, a clear line must be preserved by strict discipline, and on the other hand the men must know that everything is done for them that hard times permit. On the top of that it follows that, among real men, what counts is deeds, not words; and then it comes of itself, when such are the relations between men and their leaders, that instead of opposition there is harmony between them. The leader is merely a clearer expression of the common will and an example of life and death. And there is no science in all this. It is a practical quality, the simple manly commonsense that is native to a sound and vigorous race.","author":"Ernst Jünger","tags":["aristocracy","ity","ernst-jünger","hierarchy","leadership","masculinity","personalit"],"id":18958,"author_id":"Ernst+J%C3%BCnger"},{"text":"Our religious institutions are not giving very many men access to credible encounters with the holy or even with their own wholeness. We largely give men mandates, signposts, scaffolding and appealing images that tend to create religious identity and boundaries, but from the outside.","author":"Richard Rohr","tags":["discipleship","legalism","masculinity"],"id":20159,"author_id":"Richard+Rohr"},{"text":"THIS IS WHAT A MAN LOOKS LIKE. HE DOES NOT HAVE TO BE AESTHETICALLY PLEASING; HE DOES NOT HAVE TO BE MUSCULAR; HE DESERVES NOT TO BE PHOTOSHOPPED. HE IS HUMAN, AND HE HAS BLEMISHES. HERE HE STANDS, VISIBLE. HE SEES YOU ALL, COUNTLESS INVISIBLE OTHERS LIKE HIM. THIS BODY IS ACCEPTABLE — PUBESCENT, AWKWARD, MARRED. YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE INVISIBLE. WE ARE ALL GOOD ENOUGH. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH OUR BODIES.","author":"Agnostic Zetetic","tags":["awkward","blemish","body","body-shame","equality","feminism","happy","human","image","invisible","lgbt","male","male-beauty","man","masculinity","muscle","photoshop","pride","puberty","reality","shame","trans","transgender","visibility"],"id":26028,"author_id":"Agnostic+Zetetic"},{"text":"Masculinity is simply a conglomeration of the personality traits necessary for the patriarchal soldier-rapist: physically strong, emotionally cauterized, rational, domineering, cruel. All of this is supposed to add up to 'handsome' as well. Likewise femininity is ultimately a description of the personality that results from trauma and powerlessness: weak, passive, yielding, emotional, hyper-vigilant to the needs of the dominators and desperate for the dominator's attention.","author":"Lierre Keith","tags":["domination","femininity","masculinity","patriarchy","rape"],"id":30902,"author_id":"Lierre+Keith"},{"text":"Again and again a man would tell me about early childhood feelings of emotional exuberance, of unrepressed joy, of feeling connected to life and to other people, and then a rupture happened, a disconnect, and that feeling of being loved, of being embraced, was gone. Somehow the test of manhood, men told me, was the willingness to accept this loss, to not speak it even in private grief. Sadly, tragically, these men in great numbers were remembering a primal moment of heartbreak and heartache: the moment that they were compelled to give up their right to feel, to love, in order to take their place as patriarchal men.","author":"bell hooks","tags":["feminism","masculinity","men"],"id":30994,"author_id":"bell+hooks"},{"text":"It seems almost like America wants their boys hurt. That they need that. That guy who writes books about the wolf and the boy: every book has a scene where the kid gets caught in an avalanche or a freak blizzard. Invariably, the kid winds up naked and alone and bleeding to death and it's only the effort of the wolf that saves him. The boy can never do it himself. If they did that with a female character in a long set of books like that, the feminists would be up in arms. But does anyone mind it when it's a little boy?","author":"J. Warren","tags":["america","boys","empowerment","girls","masculinity"],"id":33816,"author_id":"J.+Warren"},{"text":"Few men realize how much of their lives are lived in pursuit of the values our culture has traditionally associated with masculinity. These values – a primary focus on work, logical thinking and always being in emotional control – have many benefits to men and their families. When taken to extremes, the pursuit of traditional masculine values becomes a cage for feelings, a stranglehold on life itself.","author":"Mary Crocker Cook","tags":["anxiety","codependency","gender-role","male-values","masculinity","men"],"id":35954,"author_id":"Mary+Crocker+Cook"}],"pagination":{"page":1,"page_size":10,"total":107,"pages":11,"next":"?page=2\u0026page_size=10"}}