{"quotes":[{"text":"When you give each other everything, it becomes an even trade. Each wins all.","author":"Lois McMaster Bujold","tags":["honor","love","marriage","marriage-advice"],"id":2269,"author_id":"Lois+McMaster+Bujold"},{"text":"Certainly the most destructive vice if you like, that a person can have. More than pride, which is supposedly the number one of the cardinal sins - is self pity. Self pity is the worst possible emotion anyone can have. And the most destructive. It is, to slightly paraphrase what Wilde said about hatred, and I think actually hatred's a subset of self pity and not the other way around - ' It destroys everything around it, except itself '. Self pity will destroy relationships, it'll destroy anything that's good, it will fulfill all the prophecies it makes and leave only itself. And it's so simple to imagine that one is hard done by, and that things are unfair, and that one is underappreciated, and that if only one had had a chance at this, only one had had a chance at that, things would have gone better, you would be happier if only this, that one is unlucky. All those things. And some of them may well even be true. But, to pity oneself as a result of them is to do oneself an enormous disservice.I think it's one of things we find unattractive about the american culture, a culture which I find mostly, extremely attractive, and I like americans and I love being in america. But, just occasionally there will be some example of the absolutely ravening self pity that they are capable of, and you see it in their talk shows. It's an appalling spectacle, and it's so self destructive. I almost once wanted to publish a self help book saying 'How To Be Happy by Stephen Fry : Guaranteed success'. And people buy this huge book and it's all blank pages, and the first page would just say - ' Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself - And you will be happy '. Use the rest of the book to write down your interesting thoughts and drawings, and that's what the book would be, and it would be true. And it sounds like 'Oh that's so simple', because it's not simple to stop feeling sorry for yourself, it's bloody hard. Because we do feel sorry for ourselves, it's what Genesis is all about.","author":"Stephen Fry","tags":["americans","depression","depression-humor","happiness","marriage-advice","morality","narcissism","oscar-wilde","pride","relationships","self-help","self-improvement","self-pity","sin","sins","the-key-to-happiness","vice"],"id":5960,"author_id":"Stephen+Fry"},{"text":"Live each day as if it could be the last day that you spend with your husband or wife.","author":"Lindsey Rietzsch","tags":["marriage","marriage-advice","marriage","motivational-speaker"],"id":8893,"author_id":"Lindsey+Rietzsch"},{"text":"Pussy is everywhere. Dick is everywhere. Chemistry isn't.","author":"Genereux Philip","tags":["chemistry","dating","dating","dick","everywhere","inpirational","life","life","love","love","marriage-advice","marriage","pussy","relationship-advice","relationship"],"id":9626,"author_id":"Genereux+Philip"},{"text":"View Conflict as an Adventure not a threat.","author":"Ashleigh Slater","tags":["adventure","communicate","conflict","husband","love","marriage","marriage-advice","team","wife"],"id":11161,"author_id":"Ashleigh+Slater"},{"text":"The sticky marital truths: - Friendship lasts longer than romance. - Romance adds icing to the friendship cake. - There are times when neither romance nor friendship keeps a couple strong.","author":"Paula Whidden","tags":["christian-living","marriage-advice","romance"],"id":12822,"author_id":"Paula+Whidden"},{"text":"Compromise, communicate, and never go to bed angry - the three pieces of advice gifted and regifted to all newlyweds.","author":"Gillian Flynn","tags":["advice","anger","communicate","communication","compromise","divorce","heartbreak","loss","love","marriage","marriage-advice","newlyweds"],"id":13635,"author_id":"Gillian+Flynn"},{"text":"If you can't take care of yourself, you can't take care of someone else.","author":"Sahithi Setikam","tags":["love","marriage-advice","personal-development","relationships-advice","single-life"],"id":14674,"author_id":"Sahithi+Setikam"},{"text":"Wife: a former girlfriend.","author":"Bangambiki Habyarimana","tags":["girlfriend","girlfriend-and-boyfriend","girlfriend","girlfriends","husband-and-wife","husband-and-wife-relationship","husband","husband-wife-problem-solution","husbands-and-wives","marriage","marriage-advice","marriage-counseling","marriage-life","marriage","married","wife","wife"],"id":15527,"author_id":"Bangambiki+Habyarimana"},{"text":"Grow up, Bailey.'That is precisely what I'm doing,' Bailey says. 'I don't care if you don't understand that. Staying here won't make me happy. It will make you happy because you're insipid and boring, and an insipid, boring life is enough for you. It's not enough for me. It will never be enough for me. So I'm leaving. Do me a favor and marry someone who will take decent care of the sheep.","author":"Erin Morgenstern","tags":["farming","life","marriage","marriage-advice","maturity","sibling-relationships"],"id":18337,"author_id":"Erin+Morgenstern"}],"pagination":{"page":1,"page_size":10,"total":160,"pages":16,"next":"?page=2\u0026page_size=10"}}