{"quotes":[{"text":"Until you have stood in another woman’s stilettos, you will never begin to know the year of pain she felt breaking them in.","author":"Shannon L. Alder","tags":["adversity","being-ignored","cruelty","illness","lack-of-compassion","misunderstood","no-empathy","no-mercy","pain","scars","sorrow","trials","wounds"],"id":35210,"author_id":"Shannon+L.+Alder"},{"text":"Why, when you have a mental disease, is it always considered an act of imagination? Why is it that every organ in your body can get sick and you get sympathy except the brain?","author":"Ruby Wax","tags":["crazy","depression","discrimination","lack-of-compassion","mental-health-stigma","mental-illness","prejudice","stigma"],"id":149952,"author_id":"Ruby+Wax"},{"text":"Tears terrify people more than anger because they attach to your heart and leave angels of mercy to shout in your mind.","author":"Shannon L. Alder","tags":["conscience","cruelty","don-t-harm-others","evil","games","giving-false-hope","humbling","lack-of-compassion","lack-of-forgiveness","lack-of-kindness","lies","mind","never-forget","responsibility","responsible","sin","tears","uncaring","what-you-did"],"id":161477,"author_id":"Shannon+L.+Alder"},{"text":"This disease comes with a package: shame. When any other part of your body gets sick, you get sympathy.","author":"Ruby Wax","tags":["bias","cruely","discrimination","disease","fear","lack-of-compassion","mental-disorders","mental-health-stigma","mental-illness","prejudice","rejectional","shame","stereotypes","stigma"],"id":215904,"author_id":"Ruby+Wax"},{"text":"Sometimes, this disapproval of how you are managing your pain crosses over to disbelief that you are in as much pain as you say you are. They don’t believe that your pain is a legitimate enough reason to rest or nap or cry or take narcotic medications or not go to work or to go to the doctor. They might think that you are making too big of a deal out of it. They doubt the legitimacy of the pain itself.This kind of stigma is the source of the dreaded accusation that chronic pain is “all in your head.” It’s as if to say that you are making a mountain out of a molehill.","author":"Murray J. McAlister","tags":["accusation","all-in-your-head","analogy","chronic-pain","chronic-pain-stigma","debelief","disbelief","invalidation","it-s-all-in-your-head","judgemental-people","lack-of-compassion","marginalized","narcotics","opioid-use","opioids","pain","pain-killer-pills","pain","pain-relief","painkillers","physical-pain","questioning-your-reality","stigma","stigmatization","stigmatized"],"id":243564,"author_id":"Murray+J.+McAlister"},{"text":"Nowhere in the bible did it say, “Only show compassion and empathy to those you can trust.” If we did that, we would be burying homeless people every day.","author":"Shannon L. Alder","tags":["charity","commandments","compassion","empathy","homeless-people","humor","hypocrisy","karma","key-to-forgiveness","lack-of-compassion","laugh","religion","sarcasim","service","starving-people","theology","trust-issues","truth"],"id":246759,"author_id":"Shannon+L.+Alder"},{"text":"People that hold onto hate for so long do so because they want to avoid dealing with their pain. They falsely believe if they forgive they are letting their enemy believe they are a doormat. What they don’t understand is hatred can’t be isolated or turned off. It manifests in their health, choices and belief systems. Their values and religious beliefs make adjustments to justify their negative emotions. Not unlike malware infesting a hard drive, their spirit slowly becomes corrupted and they make choices that don’t make logical sense to others. Hatred left unaddressed will crash a person’s spirit. The only thing he or she can do is to reboot, by fixing him or herself, not others. This might require installing a firewall of boundaries or parental controls on their emotions. Regardless of the approach, we are all connected on this 'network of life' and each of us is responsible for cleaning up our spiritual registry.","author":"Shannon L. Alder","tags":["adversity","anger-management","attitude","bad-attitude","blaming-others","blindsighted","brokenness","changing-perspective","character","choices","computers","denial","doormat","ego","emotions","false-confidence","false-ego","foolish","forgiveness","hard-hearted","hatred","history","internalizing","judgemental","lack-of-compassion","life","life-challenges","negative","pride","problems","reboot","relationships-101","sad","self-help","self-reflection","self-righteousness","spiritual-death","spiritual-health","stayingpositiveu-com","stubborn","superiority","tests","trials","unforgiving","unhappy","values"],"id":331848,"author_id":"Shannon+L.+Alder"},{"text":"People that don't know what they are worth will always see their capture's wings, but never their tail.","author":"Shannon L. Alder","tags":["bad-marriages","be-better","blindsighted","brainwashed","courage","cruel","devil","evil","evil-wives","gideon","hateful","hateful-people","have-a-conscience","have-a-heart","have-compassion","have-self-respect","immature","immoral","insecure","insecure-men","insecure-women","lack-of-compassion","living-a-lie","love-yourself","repressed","rise-up","self-confidence","smuck","staying-for-kids","stupid-choices","stupidity","used","whipped","your-living-a-lie","your-wife-is-evil"],"id":378467,"author_id":"Shannon+L.+Alder"},{"text":"Being kind to someone, only to look kind to others, defeats the purpose of being kind.","author":"Shannon L. Alder","tags":["being-right","compassion","cruelty","fake","fake-kindness","games","guessing","judging","kindness","lack-of-compassion","misunderstanding","no-communication","not-hearing","not-listening","not-understanding","piety","speculation"],"id":387664,"author_id":"Shannon+L.+Alder"},{"text":"Sometimes, we expect life to work a certain way and when it doesn’t we blame others or see it as a sign, rather than face the pain of the choices we should or shouldn’t have made. Real healing won’t begin until we stop saying, “God prevented this or that.” Often in our attempt to protect ourselves from pain, we leave things to fate and don’t take chances. Or, we don’t work hard enough to keep the blessings we are given. Maybe, we didn't recognize a blessing, until it was too late. Often, it is the lies we tell ourselves that keeps us stuck in a delusion of not being responsible for our lives. We leave it all up to God. The truth is we are not leaves blowing toward our destiny without any control. To believe this is to take away our freedom of choice and that of others. The final stage of grief is acceptance. This can’t be reached through always believing God willed the outcomes in our lives, despite our inaction or actions. To think so is to take the easy escape from our accountability. Sometimes, God has nothing to do with it. Sometimes, we just screwed up and guarded our heart from accepting it, by putting our outcome on God as the reason it turned out the way it did. Faith is a beautiful thing, but without work we can give into a mysticism of destiny that really doesn't teach us lessons or consequences for our actions. Life then becomes a distorted delusion of no accountability with God always to blame for battles we walked away from, won or loss.","author":"Shannon L. Alder","tags":["acceptance","accountability","action","blaming","break-throughs","career","choices","consequences","copouts","delusions","denial","easy-out","escape-goat","excuses","faith-without-works","faith-without-works-is-dead","freedom-of-choice","freedom-to-choose","friendships","grief","holy-ghost","in-action","integrity","jobs","lack-of-compassion","lack-of-responsibility","lies","love","mistakes","mystical","mysticism","practice","psychic-readings","relationships","responsible","screw-ups","self-awareness","self-deception","self-help","self-improvement","self-lies","self-righteousness","trying","wisdom"],"id":412083,"author_id":"Shannon+L.+Alder"}],"pagination":{"page":1,"page_size":10,"total":10,"pages":1}}