{"quotes":[{"text":"The circles of shame are vicious. Painful feelings of shame help cause people to be depressed and suicidal, these in turn become shameful aspects of the self. Being angry does not necessarily cause more anger, being envious does not necessarily cause more envy (though once we envy, we can also envy someone's lack of envy), but, in our culture at least, shame (and envy and self-pity) are things to be ashamed about. The two common feelings of suicide are hopelessness and powerlessness; each is shameful, and this additional experience of shame adds pain on pain. A man who despairs because he feels his prospects of having a family are hopeless also feels he will never lose the feeling of shame over being wifeless and childless. To be powerless to change one's life in ways that others can is cause to feel ashamed of one's powerlessness.","author":"David L. Conroy","tags":["anger","depressed","depression","envy","family","hopelessness","infertility","powerlessness","self-pity","shame","suicidal","suicide"],"id":37589,"author_id":"David+L.+Conroy"},{"text":"Adoption is a beautiful, burdensome blessing.","author":"Jody Cantrell Dyer","tags":["adoption","adoption-and-attitude","adoption-infertility","amazon","birth-father","birth-mother","birth-parents","domestic-infant","expense","expensive","family","grief-inspirational-bereavement","infertility","kindle","miscarriage","newborn-adoption","open-adoption","open-mind","openness","paperwork","parenting","the-eye-of-adoption"],"id":46249,"author_id":"Jody+Cantrell+Dyer"},{"text":"Sometimes it's hard to see the rainbow when there's been endless days of rain.","author":"Christina Greer","tags":["binge-eating-disorder","child-loss","food-addiction","high-risk-pregnancy","infertility","miscarriage","motherhood","optimism","pcos","pregnancy-loss","recovery-from-grief"],"id":50904,"author_id":"Christina+Greer"},{"text":"The English language lacks the words to mourn an absence. For the loss of a parent, grandparent, spouse, child or friend, we have all manner of words and phrases, some helpful some not. Still we are conditioned to say something, even if it is only “I’m sorry for your loss.” But for an absence, for someone who was never there at all, we are wordless to capture that particular emptiness. For those who deeply want children and are denied them, those missing babies hover like silent ephemeral shadows over their lives. Who can describe the feel of a tiny hand that is never held?","author":"Laura Bush","tags":["depression","infertility"],"id":67753,"author_id":"Laura+Bush"},{"text":"I daresay that your son or daughter has been sent as an answer to someone’s cry and that the enemy sees the greatness and the deliverer in him or her and is trying to prevent them from entering the world.","author":"Theresa Pecku-Laryea","tags":["barrenness","christian","christianity-faith","infertility","spiritual-warfare"],"id":110426,"author_id":"Theresa+Pecku-Laryea"},{"text":"The natural cure for sterility is a natural diet along with a home toxin detox.","author":"Nancy S. Mure","tags":["babies","baby","conception","healthy-habits","healthy-living","holistic-health","infertility","natural-cure-for","nature","pregnancy","sterility"],"id":133792,"author_id":"Nancy+S.+Mure"},{"text":"...Hope is never wasted. Even if what I hoped for did not come to fruition as I had imagined, as I had hoped. Hope is placing the beautifully vulnerable parts of ourselves, our raw selves, into His hands. I believe hope moves His heart; but hope also moves our hearts into His hands. Hope builds trust.","author":"Natalie Brenner","tags":["christian-living","encouraging","god","hope","hopeful","hopeless","infertility","miscarriage","trusting-god","vulnerable"],"id":152195,"author_id":"Natalie+Brenner"},{"text":"God is building a mighty army to vanquish the forces of darkness. These soldiers of the light are initially conceived and nurtured in the wombs of women. As such, an obvious strategy for the devil would be to sabotage the womb to cut down the size of this godly army.","author":"Theresa Pecku-Laryea","tags":["barrenness","children","christian","infertility","marriage-advice","women-s-inspirational"],"id":198790,"author_id":"Theresa+Pecku-Laryea"},{"text":"As impossible as this may seem (in infertility), try to reach outside of yourself and realize all of the things that you are able to do for now because you do not have children. There are seasons in life, and for now yours is an unfettered one. Allow God to use you in the present. The best way to help alleviate your pain is to try to help others alleviate their pain.","author":"Sara Dormon","tags":["bitterness","contentment","infertility"],"id":208295,"author_id":"Sara+Dormon"},{"text":"So now I just assume that it won't work, and that if it does work, I'll lose it anyway. This is meant to protect me, although it doesn't, because somehow the hope sneakily finds its way in. I'm never aware of the hope until it's gone, whooshed away like a rug pulled from under my feet, each time I hear another 'I'm sorry.","author":"Liane Moriarty","tags":["despair","hope","infertility"],"id":215872,"author_id":"Liane+Moriarty"}],"pagination":{"page":1,"page_size":10,"total":22,"pages":3,"next":"?page=2\u0026page_size=10"}}