{"quotes":[{"text":"The truth is, we tend to train people how we want to be treated. If others know you have wishy-washy boundaries then they are free to walk all over you; the results…you become a doormat. We have actually trained others to do this when we will allow people to wipe their muddy feet on us. After all, we are doormats.","author":"David W. Earle","tags":["boundaries","change","codependency","doormat","dysfunctional","families","love","recovery"],"id":80992,"author_id":"David+W.+Earle"},{"text":"Some people develop a wishbone where their backbone should be.","author":"Shannon L. Alder","tags":["anxiety","backbone","doormat","fear","gaslighted","hopeful","in-denial","wishbone"],"id":169482,"author_id":"Shannon+L.+Alder"},{"text":"The people that truly love us in life don't fight for us to remain a doormat for others.","author":"Shannon L. Alder","tags":["breakups","choices","commonsense","confidence","courage","daughters","doormat","empowering-women","family-support","girls","inner-wisdom","loving-families","marriage","men","raising-girls","relationships-101","self-confidence","self-esteem","self-respect","single-woman","stayingpositiveu-com","true-beauty","women","women-empowerment","worth"],"id":203079,"author_id":"Shannon+L.+Alder"},{"text":"Empowered Women 101: If he has to destroy other people to raise your self esteem and level of trust then he is not a son of God and guess what your not a daughter of God for letting him do it.","author":"Shannon L. Alder","tags":["control","doormat","empowering-women-101","stayingpositiveu-com"],"id":238660,"author_id":"Shannon+L.+Alder"},{"text":"Courage is God's way of testing the virtues you profess to have and your level of commitment to everything you think you are.","author":"Shannon L. Alder","tags":["circumstances","commitment","courage","doormat","fake","fasade","fear","follower","follower-vs-fan","good-character","hollow","hollowmen","integrity","leader","narcissistic","promptings","quality-person","spiritual-tests","standing-alone","values","virtues","warriors"],"id":261743,"author_id":"Shannon+L.+Alder"},{"text":"Denial is the way people handle what they cannot handle.","author":"Shannon L. Alder","tags":["anxiety","denial","doormat","fear","in-denial","reconciliation"],"id":302005,"author_id":"Shannon+L.+Alder"},{"text":"Empowered Women 101: A confident woman knows that forgiving is important, but sticking around for constant abuse isn't being confident; it is called being a doormat.","author":"Shannon L. Alder","tags":["confidence","confident-women","doormat","empowered-women-101","forgiving","self-love","self-respect","stayingpositiveu-com"],"id":305277,"author_id":"Shannon+L.+Alder"},{"text":"People that hold onto hate for so long do so because they want to avoid dealing with their pain. They falsely believe if they forgive they are letting their enemy believe they are a doormat. What they don’t understand is hatred can’t be isolated or turned off. It manifests in their health, choices and belief systems. Their values and religious beliefs make adjustments to justify their negative emotions. Not unlike malware infesting a hard drive, their spirit slowly becomes corrupted and they make choices that don’t make logical sense to others. Hatred left unaddressed will crash a person’s spirit. The only thing he or she can do is to reboot, by fixing him or herself, not others. This might require installing a firewall of boundaries or parental controls on their emotions. Regardless of the approach, we are all connected on this 'network of life' and each of us is responsible for cleaning up our spiritual registry.","author":"Shannon L. Alder","tags":["adversity","anger-management","attitude","bad-attitude","blaming-others","blindsighted","brokenness","changing-perspective","character","choices","computers","denial","doormat","ego","emotions","false-confidence","false-ego","foolish","forgiveness","hard-hearted","hatred","history","internalizing","judgemental","lack-of-compassion","life","life-challenges","negative","pride","problems","reboot","relationships-101","sad","self-help","self-reflection","self-righteousness","spiritual-death","spiritual-health","stayingpositiveu-com","stubborn","superiority","tests","trials","unforgiving","unhappy","values"],"id":331848,"author_id":"Shannon+L.+Alder"},{"text":"Rule 1: Be kind.Rule 2: Don't be a doormat when they step on you.Kindness and sticking up for yourself go hand in hand if you want happiness.","author":"Richie Norton","tags":["advice","doormat","hand-in-hand","happiness","kind","kindness","life-advice","rule","sticking-up-for-yourself"],"id":334897,"author_id":"Richie+Norton"},{"text":"I love my ex so much I printed out all his pictures. After all, I need him for target practice. And I just love customised toilet paper and doormats. My only regret is that those items don't bear his autograph.","author":"Natalya Vorobyova","tags":["animosity","autograph","bitter","breakup","customized","doormat","ex","funny","gun","hate","humour","love","pictures","silly","target-practice","toilet-paper"],"id":449918,"author_id":"Natalya+Vorobyova"}],"pagination":{"page":1,"page_size":10,"total":11,"pages":2,"next":"?page=2\u0026page_size=10"}}