{"quotes":[{"text":"Death pulls people from our spaces so often and we accept it as our final payment for having been here and having lived, however big or small. We don’t always have time to notice how things have changed in the absence of some of them. But then death pulls away someone we love, and we find that time. In here, we notice everything; growing grass and fingernails, and songs that end in a minor key. We are too sad to do anything else but watch a clock, applying seconds, minutes, and hours to the trauma and the lacerations. Time, the forever healer, they say. We find the time to wonder how everyone else is moving on, around our paralyzed selves. Ourselves unsure of roads and trees and birds and things. It all blurs and words aren’t words anymore. We find the time to attempt to figure a way to rethink everything we thought about this world and why we came to it.","author":"Darnell Lamont Walker","tags":["death","death-and-love","death-of-a-child","death-of-a-loved-one","dying"],"id":6314,"author_id":"Darnell+Lamont+Walker"},{"text":"There is one invisible bridge for every one of us and death is the first step of it. On this side, there is life where there are questions and fear but on that other side of that bridge, there is a whole new world full of answers and peace.","author":"Viraj J. Mahajan","tags":["death","death-and-dying","death-of-a-child","death-of-a-loved-one","death","life-philosophy","magic","philosophy"],"id":23039,"author_id":"Viraj+J.+Mahajan"},{"text":"The dead only knows their world.","author":"Lailah Gifty Akita","tags":["death-and-dying","death-and-sickness","death-of-a-child","death-of-a-loved-one","death-wish","dying-well","dying-words","dying-young","grave","grave-peril","gravestone","graveyard-book","graveyards","life-and-death","life-and-death-life","life-lesson","life-philosophy","life","note-to-self","wisdom","wise","wise-words"],"id":24336,"author_id":"Lailah+Gifty+Akita"},{"text":"I live nearby a graveyard, that's where I get all my inspiration for wisdom and life.","author":"Bangambiki Habyarimana","tags":["dead","death","death-and-dying","death-of-a-child","death-of-a-friend","death-of-a-loved-one","death-of-a-parent","death-of-the-human-race","death","deathbed","die","dying-at-home","dying-inside","dying-words","fear-of-death","grave","graveyard","inspiration","inspiration","life","life","wisdom","wisdom"],"id":25541,"author_id":"Bangambiki+Habyarimana"},{"text":"The sorrow we feel when we lose a loved one is the price we pay to have had them in our lives.","author":"Rob Liano","tags":["death","death-and-dying","death-and-love","death-note","death-of-a-child","death-of-a-loved-one","grieve","grieving","inspiration","life","life-lessons","life-philosophy","loss","loss-of-a-child","loss-of-family","love","mourning","sorrow","sorrowful"],"id":35381,"author_id":"Rob+Liano"},{"text":"The world slides, the world goes, and death makes equal the rich and the poor.","author":"Bangambiki Habyarimana","tags":["dead","death","death-and-dying","death-of-a-child","death-of-a-friend","death-of-a-loved-one","death-of-a-parent","death-of-the-human-race","death","deathbed","die","dying-at-home","dying-inside","dying-words","equal","equal-rights","equality","fear-of-death","grave","graveyard","rich-and-poor","world-slides"],"id":42696,"author_id":"Bangambiki+Habyarimana"},{"text":"I was ravenous for my child and took to gorging myself in the boneyard, hoping that she might possibly meet me halfway, or just beyond, one night, if only for an instant—step back into her own bare feet, onto the wet grass or fallen leaves or snowy ground of the living Enon, so that we could share just one last human word.","author":"Paul Harding","tags":["death","death-of-a-child","grief"],"id":105271,"author_id":"Paul+Harding"},{"text":"...When your child dies, you feel everything you'd expect to feel, feelings so well-documented by so many others that I won't even bother to list them here, except to say that everything that's written about mourning is all the same, and it's all the same for a reason - because there is no read deviation from the text. Sometimes you feel more of one thing and less of another, and sometimes you feel them out of order, and sometimes you feel them for a longer time or a shorter time. But the sensations are always the same.But here's what no one says - when it's your child, a part of you, a very tiny but nonetheless unignorable part of you, also feels relief. Because finally, the moment you have been expecting, been dreading, been preparing yourself for since the day you became a parent, has come.Ah, you tell yourself, it's arrived. Here it is.And after that, you have nothing to fear again.","author":"Hanya Yanagihara","tags":["death-of-a-child","death-of-a-loved-one","parents"],"id":116654,"author_id":"Hanya+Yanagihara"},{"text":"Will my eyes adjust to this darkness? Will I find you in the dark – not in the streaks of light which remain, but in the darkness? Has anyone ever found you there? Did they love what they saw? Did they see love? And are there songs for singing when the light has gone dim? Or in the dark, is it best to wait in silence?Noon has darkened. As fast as they could say, ‘He’s dead,’ the light dimmed. And where are you in the darkness? I learned to spy you in the light. Here in this darkness, I cannot find you. If I had never looked for you, or looked but never found, I would not feel this pain of your absence. Or is not your absence in which I dwell, but your elusive troubling presence?It’s the neverness that is so painful. Never again to be here with us – never to sit with us at the table…. All the rest of our lives we must live without him. Only our death can stop the pain of his death.","author":"Nicholas Wolterstorff","tags":["child-death","death-of-a-child","grief","nicholas-wolterstorff"],"id":141558,"author_id":"Nicholas+Wolterstorff"},{"text":"We die a day at a time.","author":"Bangambiki Habyarimana","tags":["death","death-and-dying","death-of-a-child","death-of-a-friend","death-of-a-loved-one","death-of-a-parent","death-of-the-human-race","deathbed","die","dying-at-home","dying-inside","dying-words","fear-of-death"],"id":162061,"author_id":"Bangambiki+Habyarimana"}],"pagination":{"page":1,"page_size":10,"total":26,"pages":3,"next":"?page=2\u0026page_size=10"}}