{"quotes":[{"text":"It took so long to find you...And now I don't want it to change. I want it all set in amber. I want us and nobody else in the most selfish way you can imagine. I can't help it--I'm old-fashioned. I believe marriage is between a man and a man.","author":"Armistead Maupin","tags":["co-dependence","desire","jealousy","joyful-living","love","passion","possessiveness","selfishness"],"id":3430,"author_id":"Armistead+Maupin"},{"text":"Codependency is a learned set of behaviors, thought processes, and habits. When combined together, they fit a very loose definition. All people exhibit these traits to some degree, but some of us allow them to dictate our relationships with others and ourselves.","author":"David W. Earle","tags":["change","chaos","co-dependence","dysfuctional","dysfunctional-families","love","relationships","traits"],"id":15787,"author_id":"David+W.+Earle"},{"text":"Sharing your life with someone will have much more meaning coming from a place of independence rather than co-dependence.","author":"Gary Hopkins","tags":["co-dependence","common-sense","contentment","divine","energy-medicine","happiness","higher-power","independence","meaning","meaningful-life"],"id":17684,"author_id":"Gary+Hopkins"},{"text":"I begin to learn there are certain things I shouldn't tell her. Like when we meet boys at Dorrian's and I give mine a blow job, or the time I messed around with a boy in the back near the bathrooms. Amy wants to be intimate with boys too, but to her this kind of conduct is slutty. I suppose it is. She, like most girls, including the Jennifers, has a different relationship to boys than I do. She engages in sexual acts with them if she wants, but from my vantage point it looks like she can take them or leave them if they are not just right. She considers whether she actually likes someone before she jumps into bed with him. She isn't wracked with anxiety when there aren't any boys around. And she doesn't need them to live, which is what it feels like for me.","author":"Kerry Cohen","tags":["anxiety","co-dependence","identity","love","promiscuity","teenagers"],"id":53642,"author_id":"Kerry+Cohen"},{"text":"Before entering into any kind of intimate relationships, whether friendship, familial re-connection, or romance, the idea of “needing” or “being needed” must be eliminated. It's harmful to me and others. Need is no kind of foundation for anything. Rather, I choose to be wanted. “Want” is a deliberate choice. Wanting is not based in fear or ego (which are one in the same, I believe). Want comes from recognition of someone else's goodness and loving them for it. Being wanted is unconditional. It does not require emotional games be played, it does not require reparations be made or obligations be met. Being wanted is good, in and of itself.","author":"Jennifer DeLucy","tags":["co-dependence","inner-strength","relationships","self-esteem","self-love","unconditional-love"],"id":184541,"author_id":"Jennifer+DeLucy"},{"text":"It is one thing to know about your dysfunctional habits but quite another to change them.","author":"David W. Earle","tags":["change","chaos","co-dependence","codependency","dysfunctional","dysfunctional-family","family","family-drama","habits","love","recovery"],"id":251880,"author_id":"David+W.+Earle"},{"text":"If we want to improve, first we have to recognize our own maladaptive coping skills, called codependency, then change.","author":"David W. Earle","tags":["change","chaos","co-dependence","codependency","dysfunctional","dysfunctional-families","family","love","relationships"],"id":417228,"author_id":"David+W.+Earle"},{"text":"When we stop looking for someone to complete us, we find completion in ourselves.","author":"Vironika Tugaleva","tags":["co-dependence","complete","completion","dependence","healing","independence","love","relationships","self-love","wholeness"],"id":429286,"author_id":"Vironika+Tugaleva"},{"text":"Nice people don't necessarily fall in love with nice people.","author":"Jonathan Franzen","tags":["attraction","co-dependence","divorce","idealism","idealists","marriage","narcissism","sociopathology","the-rules-of-attraction","victims-of-narcissists"],"id":432544,"author_id":"Jonathan+Franzen"},{"text":"Empowerment is the ability to refine, improve, and enhance your life without co-dependency.","author":"Steve Maraboli","tags":["co-dependence","empowerment","enhance","improve","inspirational","life"],"id":444959,"author_id":"Steve+Maraboli"}],"pagination":{"page":1,"page_size":10,"total":10,"pages":1}}