{"author":"Judith Martin","author_id":"Judith+Martin","total_quotes":19,"quotes":[{"text":"The rationale that etiquette should be eschewed because it fosters inequality does not ring true in a society that openly admits to a feverish interest in the comparative status-conveying qualities of sneakers. Manners are available to all, for free.","author":"Judith Martin","tags":["etiquette","manners","sneakers","society","status","status-anxiety"],"id":4525,"author_id":"Judith+Martin"},{"text":"We are born charming, fresh and spontaneous and must be civilized before we are fit to participate in society.","author":"Judith Martin","tags":["born","spontaneous","charming "],"id":42207,"author_id":"Judith+Martin"},{"text":"It's far more impressive when others discover your good qualities without your help.","author":"Judith Martin","tags":["help","discover","without "],"id":68012,"author_id":"Judith+Martin"},{"text":"A wedding invitation is sent by people who have been saying  'Do we have to ask them?' to people whose first response is  'How much do you think we have to spend on them?'.","author":"Judith Martin","tags":["love","marriage"],"id":72038,"author_id":"Judith+Martin"},{"text":"We are all born rude. No infant has ever appeared yet with the grace to understand how inconsiderate it is to disturb others in the middle of the night.","author":"Judith Martin","tags":["babies","children","consideration","etiquette","humor","infants","manners"],"id":82016,"author_id":"Judith+Martin"},{"text":"When virtues are pointed out first, flaws seem less insurmountable.","author":"Judith Martin","tags":["criticism","praise","self-esteem","virtues"],"id":102147,"author_id":"Judith+Martin"},{"text":"There are three possible parts to a date, of which at least two must be offered: entertainment, food, and affection. It is customary to begin a series of dates with a great deal of entertainment, a moderate amount of food, and the merest suggestion of affection. As the amount of affection increases, the entertainment can be reduced proportionately. When the affection IS the entertainment, we no longer call it dating. Under no circumstances can the food be omitted.","author":"Judith Martin","tags":["affection","dating","eating","entertainment","etiquette","food","romance"],"id":135465,"author_id":"Judith+Martin"},{"text":"It is far more impressive when others discover your good qualities without your help.","author":"Judith Martin","tags":["self","confidence"],"id":144069,"author_id":"Judith+Martin"},{"text":"Many people mistakenly think a new technology cancels out an old one.","author":"Judith Martin","tags":["people","think","new "],"id":171264,"author_id":"Judith+Martin"},{"text":"One reason that the task of inventing manners is so difficult is that etiquette is folk custom, and people have emotional ties to the forms of their youth. That is why there is such hostility between generations in times of rapid change; their manners being different, each feels affronted by the other, taking even the most surface choices for challenges.","author":"Judith Martin","tags":["age","courtesy","manners","miss-manners"],"id":240596,"author_id":"Judith+Martin"}],"pagination":{"page":1,"page_size":10,"total":19,"pages":2,"next":"?page=2\u0026page_size=10"}}