{"author":"Jessica Valenti","author_id":"Jessica+Valenti","total_quotes":49,"quotes":[{"text":"The truth about parenting is that the reality of our lives needs to be enough.","author":"Jessica Valenti","tags":["truth","reality","enough "],"id":4982,"author_id":"Jessica+Valenti"},{"text":"Do you think it is fair that guy will make more money doing the same job as you? Does it piss you off and scare you when you find out about your friends getting raped? Do you ever feel like shit about your body? Do you ever feel like something is weong with you because you don't fit into this bizarre ideal of what girls are supposed to be like? Well, my friend, I hate to break it to you, but you're hardcore feminist. I swear.","author":"Jessica Valenti","tags":["feminism","inspirirational"],"id":9547,"author_id":"Jessica+Valenti"},{"text":"What’s the worst possible thing you can call a woman? Don’t hold back, now. You’re probably thinking of words like slut, whore, bitch, cunt (I told you not to hold back!), skank. Okay, now, what are the worst things you can call a guy? Fag, girl, bitch, pussy. I’ve even heard the term “mangina.” Notice anything? The worst thing you can call a girl is a girl. The worst thing you can call a guy is a girl. Being a woman is the ultimate insult. Now tell me that’s not royally fucked up.","author":"Jessica Valenti","tags":["bullying","degradation","dehumanization","feminism","gender-roles","hate","insults","men","misogyny","women"],"id":16779,"author_id":"Jessica+Valenti"},{"text":"The same people who wear shirts that read “fuck your feelings” and rail against “political correctness” seem to believe that there should be no social consequences for [voting for Trump]. I keep hearing calls for empathy and healing, civility and polite discourse. As if supporting a man who would fill his administration with white nationalists and misogynists is something to simply agree to disagree on.Absolutely not. You don’t get to vote for a person who brags about sexual assault and expect that the women in your life will just shrug their shoulders. You don’t get to play the victim when people unfriend you on Facebook, as if being disliked for supporting a bigot is somehow worse than the suffering that marginalized people will endure under Trump. And you certainly do not get to enjoy a performance by people of color and those in the LGBT community without remark or protest when you enact policies and stoke hatred that put those very people’s lives in danger.Being socially ostracized for supporting Trump is not an infringement of your rights, it’s a reasonable response by those of us who are disgusted, anxious, and afraid. I was recently accused by a writer of “vote shaming” – but there’s nothing wrong with being made to feel ashamed for doing something shameful.","author":"Jessica Valenti","tags":["bigot","bigotry","conservative","democrat","intolerance","liberal","racism","racist","republican","trump"],"id":22945,"author_id":"Jessica+Valenti"},{"text":"Wedding fever is one of the scariest diseases I have ever seen.","author":"Jessica Valenti","tags":["fever","diseases","seen "],"id":34185,"author_id":"Jessica+Valenti"},{"text":"I think that the ideal of parenting can make people unhappy. It's that this lie that they're being told by society that parenting is one thing - and when parenting is something completely different - that's what makes them unhappy.","author":"Jessica Valenti","tags":["society","lie","people "],"id":51041,"author_id":"Jessica+Valenti"},{"text":"For women especially, virginity has become the easy answer- the morality quick fix. You can be vapid, stupid, and unethical, but so long as you've never had sex, you're a 'good' (I.E. 'moral) girl and therefore worthy of praise.","author":"Jessica Valenti","tags":["ethics","feminism","purity-myth","virginity"],"id":57796,"author_id":"Jessica+Valenti"},{"text":"As I grew up and began identifying myself as a feminist, there were plenty of issues that continued to make me question marriage: the father 'giving' the bride away, women taking their husband's last name, the white dress, the vows promising to 'obey' the groom. And that only covers the wedding.","author":"Jessica Valenti","tags":["women","father","myself "],"id":62330,"author_id":"Jessica+Valenti"},{"text":"Still, somehow, inexplicably, “man-hater” is a word tossed around with insouciance as if this was a real thing that did harm. Meanwhile we have no real word for men who kill women. Is the word just “men”?","author":"Jessica Valenti","tags":["feminism"],"id":62389,"author_id":"Jessica+Valenti"},{"text":"Young women are not putting themselves in danger. The people around them are doing the real damage. Who? You might wonder. The abstinence teacher who tells her students that they'll go to jail if they have premarital sex. The well-founded organizarion that tells girls on college campuses that they should be looking for a husband, not taking women's studies classes. The judge who rules against a rape survivor because she didn't meet whatevel standard for a victim he had in mind. The legislator who pushes a bill to limit young women's access to abortion because he doesn't think they're smart enough to make their own decisions. These are the people who are making the world a worse place, and a more dangerous one, at that, for girls and young women. We're just doing our best to live in it.","author":"Jessica Valenti","tags":["college","feminism","law","rape","victim-blaming","virginity","women"],"id":93316,"author_id":"Jessica+Valenti"}],"pagination":{"page":1,"page_size":10,"total":49,"pages":5,"next":"?page=2\u0026page_size=10"}}