{"author":"Cathy Burnham Martin","author_id":"Cathy+Burnham+Martin","total_quotes":33,"quotes":[{"text":"Apologies require taking full responsibility. No half-truths, no partial admissions, no rationalizations, no finger pointing, and no justifications belong in any apology.","author":"Cathy Burnham Martin","tags":["apologies","apology","forgiveness","justification","justify","love","men","partner","rationalize","responsibility","truth","women"],"id":37309,"author_id":"Cathy+Burnham+Martin"},{"text":"It matters not which partner is bringing negativity into conversations and exchanges. Toxicity has no place at all between people who have promised to love each other.","author":"Cathy Burnham Martin","tags":["love","men","negative","partner","positive","relationship","toxic","women"],"id":41397,"author_id":"Cathy+Burnham+Martin"},{"text":"I am a great believer in not pushing each other’s “buttons” just because we know where they are! That’s part of trusting each other. We need to trust that our vulnerabilities and challenges are safe with the person we love.","author":"Cathy Burnham Martin","tags":["arguing","argument","fighting","love","relationship","trust","vulnerability","vulnerable"],"id":55203,"author_id":"Cathy+Burnham+Martin"},{"text":"If there were past misdeeds, I do not believe we should nag or repeat them, never mind throw them in someone’s face. If they sincerely apologized and we genuinely forgave them, we must move on. Learn from mistakes, but move on. If we bring them up and toss them at the offender, we may not have actually forgiven them, even if we claim we have.","author":"Cathy Burnham Martin","tags":["apologies","apology","forgive","forgiveness","learning","misdeeds","mistakes","nagging","the-past"],"id":59561,"author_id":"Cathy+Burnham+Martin"},{"text":"Cheating is pure hypocrisy. Our partner deserves better than that. If we don’t love someone, we should not be with them. That would also be hypocrisy.","author":"Cathy Burnham Martin","tags":["cheater","cheating","hypocrisy","love","men","partner","relationships","spouse","women"],"id":65511,"author_id":"Cathy+Burnham+Martin"},{"text":"Whether we know it or choose to admit it, we are either an Encourager or a Discourager. We each make a choice as to which type we will be… every day. Discouragers bring “stresspools.”I call any of those places that add unnecessary stress and aggravation “stresspools.” They are just as stinky and rotten as cesspools, but “stresspools” wreak of tension, strain, anxiety, worry, hassle, pressure, and emotional trauma.","author":"Cathy Burnham Martin","tags":["anxiety","attitude","discourage","emotion","encourage","negative","positive","pressure","stress","tension"],"id":93588,"author_id":"Cathy+Burnham+Martin"},{"text":"Appreciation and respect are mutual needs. We may be wired differently as men and women, but some needs are parallel human needs.","author":"Cathy Burnham Martin","tags":["appreciation","attitude","human-nature","love","men","needs","relationships","respect","women"],"id":110776,"author_id":"Cathy+Burnham+Martin"},{"text":"Extra-marital affairs become things of legend… and often the undoing of legends… and mere mortals.","author":"Cathy Burnham Martin","tags":["affair","affairs","affairs-of-heart","celebrities","cheating","liars","politicians","relationships"],"id":123336,"author_id":"Cathy+Burnham+Martin"},{"text":"We could choose to celebrate our differences, rather than over-analyze them. This might help us become more realistic about the generalizations to which we subscribe. For example, consider this. If women are the overemotional ones, why do so many bar fights break out between men? Such brawls do not spring from logical, calm places.","author":"Cathy Burnham Martin","tags":["differences","double-standards","emotional","emotions","fight","men","stereotypes","women"],"id":130196,"author_id":"Cathy+Burnham+Martin"},{"text":"We will remember the hurt, the injustice, and the trauma, but we can forgive the sinner.","author":"Cathy Burnham Martin","tags":["forgive","forgiveness","human","human-nature","humanity","hurt","hurt-feelings","hurting-heart","injustice","love","sin","sinner","trauma"],"id":130962,"author_id":"Cathy+Burnham+Martin"}],"pagination":{"page":1,"page_size":10,"total":33,"pages":4,"next":"?page=2\u0026page_size=10"}}