{"author":"Anna Quindlen","author_id":"Anna+Quindlen","total_quotes":75,"quotes":[{"text":"I'm sure not afraid of success and I've learned not to be afraid of failure. The only thing I'm afraid of now is of being someone I don't like much.","author":"Anna Quindlen","tags":["success","afraid","now "],"id":989,"author_id":"Anna+Quindlen"},{"text":"We read in bed because reading is halfway between life and dreaming, our own consciousness in someone else's mind.","author":"Anna Quindlen","tags":["consciousness","dreams","imagination","mind","reading","reality"],"id":10961,"author_id":"Anna+Quindlen"},{"text":"So much of friendship is about being in the right place at the right time.","author":"Anna Quindlen","tags":["friendship"],"id":15208,"author_id":"Anna+Quindlen"},{"text":"I have a cat, the pet that ranks just above a throw pillow in terms of required responsibility.","author":"Anna Quindlen","tags":["cats"],"id":15364,"author_id":"Anna+Quindlen"},{"text":"America is a country that seems forever to be toddler or teenager, at those two stages of human development characterized by conflict between autonomy and security.","author":"Anna Quindlen","tags":["america","conflict","security "],"id":16683,"author_id":"Anna+Quindlen"},{"text":"There is still a kind of unique loneliness to child rearing for women. We so often do it in isolation. Add to the fact that in our competitive, perfectionist culture, in which the price woman are required to pay for freedom still seems to be martyrdom, almost everyone lies about motherhood. Part of that lying is loyalty - I can't let on that my kid is the only one on the playground who can't read or play the piano - and part of it is self-protection, since we've made hyper-motherhood a measure of female success. The preferred answer to the question 'How are you?' is always 'Fine,' and the answer to the question 'How are the kids?' is supposed to be 'Great!' That's true even if the accurate answers would be 'terrible' and 'a mess.' I think it produces its own kind of desperation, especially for women, who yearn to be emotionally open.","author":"Anna Quindlen","tags":["motherhood"],"id":17267,"author_id":"Anna+Quindlen"},{"text":"Children should have enough freedom to be themselves - once they've learned the rules.","author":"Anna Quindlen","tags":["children","freedom","rules "],"id":19444,"author_id":"Anna+Quindlen"},{"text":"A loose end - that's what we woman call it, when we are overwhelmed by the care of small children, the weight of small tasks, a life in which we fall into bed at the end of the day exhausted from being all things to all people.","author":"Anna Quindlen","tags":["motherhood"],"id":20787,"author_id":"Anna+Quindlen"},{"text":"The clearest explanation for the failure of any marriage is that the two people are incompatible; that is, that one is male and the other female.","author":"Anna Quindlen","tags":["marriage","people","two people "],"id":22023,"author_id":"Anna+Quindlen"},{"text":"Your children make it impossible to regret your past. They're its finest fruits. Sometimes the only ones.","author":"Anna Quindlen","tags":["children","regrets"],"id":52896,"author_id":"Anna+Quindlen"}],"pagination":{"page":1,"page_size":10,"total":75,"pages":8,"next":"?page=2\u0026page_size=10"}}